You may have noticed that I haven't been posting as often and much as I would like. Computer time is a luxury these days, that I hardly have time to sit down and check my email!
I have had this inward battle with myself these last few weeks, and I didn't want it to reflect in my blog posts. The last thing I aim to do on here is to offend anyone with one of my emotional blah-blah's.
I have also learned some important lessons about myself and my relationships with others. I learned that no matter how hard I try, I can not please everyone. Someone is always going to be ticked off at me for some reason other. I haven't done anything wrong, I think, but I feel like sometimes just the fact that I am a happy person with a pretty good life will make some people angry, jealous and hateful. It isn't my problem. And without compromising myself and the values I hold dear, there are just some people that will never be my friends.
You may have noticed that I have a few unspoken rules that I abide by on this blog. First off, I never use this as a way to gossip about people. When I first started this blog, I admit, I tended to poke fun at people once in a while and I have since learned that it wasn't very nice and I even lost a few friends over it. It was dumb, and I changed. I don't gossip about people in real life, it isn't nice and can have some really serious consequences. If I talk about other people when they aren't around, I ask myself: "Would I say this if they were here?" Usually, good news like babies being born and people getting married can be good news to share and other stuff like that.
Secondly, I try very hard not to talk about things that can be controversial. I hate being the cause of contention. But don't think I don't have an opinion, because let me tell you, I have one about everything! I just know when it isn't worth fighting about and losing friends over.
I like to believe in Karma. That if I am a good person, people will be good to me and good things will come my way. It's a great attitude to have and has been mostly true. But we all have trials in life, and it's those moments when things are the hardest that we have a chance to grow and get a glimpse of the person that we are and who we have the potential to become.
I have been put in a bit of a pickle this last week.
I won't go into details because I don't want to point fingers or call anyone out. I just want to have a moment where I can congratulate my hubby in his hard work and achievements and not have my feelings hurt for feeling good.
At the beginning of this last semester, my Ben was asked by his ROTC Commander to be the captain of the Ranger Challenge Team. (They are kind of like a varsity team for the ROTC and they compete against other schools in several areas like PT and written tests, shooting, assembly and disassembling weapons, grenade throws, rope bridges, ruck runs, etc.) I was really happy for him because he had worked really hard to make the team and compete the fall before. The first year he tried out he didn't make it, then last summer he did P90X and worked for it. So I was really happy for him to be the captain!
Now, he was supposed to carry over this leadership position into his senior year, so you can imagine my surprise when we went to the award ceremony and they announced that someone else was going to be the captain of the team next year. Then after they started calling off the MS-4's new leadership roles for the next year (MS-4 is the title of the cadets that are in their last year of college before graduating and commissioning. . MS-1's are first years, MS-2's are second years and so on). They didn't say what Ben was until the very last, and announced that he would be the new Cadet Commander. (Now, to many of you that doesn't mean much, but in the ROTC it means that Ben is now the highest ranking cadet there, the big cheese, the top of the totem.) I was pleasantly surprised, a little confused, but very happy for him. I felt it would be a great learning opportunity for him.
|I took this picture off the Utah State ROTC Facebook page. I figured they|
wouldn't care if I used it on here... Hopefully :)
Now, I had a choice. I could either pretend I didn't hear it and slink off and stew about it. I could call them out on it and maybe make a scene... OR I could do what I did and said "Hi!" really loud and let them know that I heard them but that I was going to rise above it. You should have seen their faces! Two words: Kodak. Moment.
The only thing I was guilty of was having a super cool hubby. If they had issues with that, then that's their problem. And you know what? I can't let it bother me. I can't let it eat at me. There is a part of me that wants to hide and not take part in the ROTC next year because the other wives might think I am a snob. But I can't let people like that win. So I am going to be the best Cadet Commander wife that I can (even though I have no clue what I am doing...), be a good person, and the rest... well, let's just hope that the rest takes care of itself. Besides, chances are that gossip and backbiting is going to happen everywhere we go... it's just way people are sometimes. Sad, but true.
I believe in myself, and I know that if people don't give me a chance to be their friend, then they are missing out on having a good friendship! And heaven knows, we ALL need good friends.
So I want to end off by giving my hubby a big congrats on not only for the opportunity to serve the ROTC as Cadet Commander next year, but for his hard work in earning and receiving the German Armed Forces Proficiency Badge -- See that pretty gold Eagle on the left... looking good!
For those of you who have just received the German Armed Forces Proficiency Badge (GAFPB) and have no idea how to wear it, here are the rules:
Proper Wear of the GAFPB:
Males wear a foreign badge ⅛ inch above the right pocket flap, or ½ inch above any unit awards that are worn. Females wear the badge ½ inch above the nameplate, or ½ inch above any unit awards that are worn. Personnel may not wear a foreign badge unless at least one U.S. medal or service ribbon is worn at the same time. Foreign badges are not authorized for wear on mess or utility uniforms. Personnel may not wear foreign badges that are awarded only as cloth badges. Personnel may not wear foreign badges that cannot be worn properly because of size or configuration. -AR-670-1, section 29-19 part BIn addition to this, the badge may only be worn on the US Army Class A and/or ASU jacket.
UPDATE: There has been debate on whether or not the GAFPB should be "centered" or not since the rules aren't clear. After asking around, this is all I can tell you: every commander is different. Some would rather have it offset as to not be under the collar (especially in the Class A's), other's prefer it centered (mostly on the ASU's). Your best bet, when in doubt, ask your commander. The way Ben is wearing it above is they way HIS commander prefers.
Here is an updated picture of my husband in his Blues (ASU's) with the rest of us at his commissioning Aug 2013 :)
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