|My two biggest fans!!!|
You would think people would be happy and encouraging about it, but the sad truth is, only a few of my dear friends and some family members are. There is a major chunk of people in life that are totally irritated with me every time I choose to get healthy. I get comments like this:
"I can't believe you are losing weight while you are nursing! That is so unhealthy for your baby!" Just for the record, I would NEVER do anything to hurt my baby! What an insult to my intelligence!
I get this one too:
"You don't need to lose weight! If you lose anymore you will be unhealthy," This is just stupid, if you look at me and my rolls you know I am not at a healthy weight. I don't dream of being a size 2, I just want to be healthy and strong and there is nothing wrong with that.
"It wouldn't hurt to lose a few pounds." A little rude but honest -- I appreciate that! Problem is, you can't please everyone! People get irritated if you are fat, and then when you lose weight others are irritated at that! You can't win!
You know, I just decided that I can't let people tell me how to live. First off, the ones who really love me are proud of me for my hard work. The ones that have issues with it are probably just jealous and want to tear me down too. I guess making a huge change in your life is going to ruffle some feathers one way or another. That's life! Last time I was fat, about two years ago, and almost 300 pounds I had a friend who was about 50 pounds lighter than I was, but still heavy set, and she would talk all the time to me about how people just don't understand us "bigger" women. Then I started to lose weight and she didn't... then I passed her up... and then when I was like 5 sizes smaller than she was, she told me that she felt she couldn't trust me anymore. What the heck?! Seriously?! I got untrustworthy because I lost weight... whatever!
Making big life changes can really weed out your friends: true friends vs. friends of convenience. I hated the fact that I had friends who hung around me when I was fat because I made them feel better about themselves! Can you believe there are people like that out there?! I didn't know it until then.
Now, I am trying to get in shape again after this pregnancy totally kicked my butt, mainly due to the sciatica that wouldn't let me workout. I know there are a lot of you out there working towards the same goal and I just want you to know that I am proud of all your hard work! I hope I am never one of those fair-weather friends.
Meanwhile, I am thinking of carrying around one of the boys' Nerf Guns and popping people between the eyes who have snooty comments about my looks... because gosh darn-it, I work hard and deserve to be happy! Don't you?