|Me and my cousin|
This blog post she wrote, really got me thinking about things. It made me wonder how people in her situation may view me? My cousin is a single, beautiful, successful career woman who has seen the world and rubbed elbows with lots of different and important people. She is a great writer, and VERY funny. I like to follow her blog and Facebook updates just to get a taste of the excitement she seems to always be living and leave her a comment every once in a while to see how she's doing and what's she up to. She lives in such a different world than I do, that it's weird to think about sometimes. So I mostly don't. But as different as we are, we were close as kids, and I know that as weird as I may seem to her, she still loves me. She calls herself "Blackhearted" but I beg to differ!
I know we have a hard time relating to each other these days. I can't imagine running around like she does, and having deadlines and work-related responsibilities. And I am sure as heck, she can't imagine living in my shoes either! If you took me and plunked me right in the middle of her world, I would be a fish out of water, and if you did the same to her, she would probably run away screaming! I would be no fun at the high class parties she goes to, I wouldn't even know what to wear... and if I found something it would probably have a stain on it! And I am pretty sure dirty diapers, spaghetti-O's on the celling, 20 loads of laundry and kitchen full of dirty dishes would scare her away if not the first time she spotted Nephi drinking out of my re-fill cup with snot running away from his nose down my straw did! Which reminds me, I actually had a friend (childless) gag over that one. She asked me how I could stand it! Instead of telling her I sanitize the heck out of it, my snarkiness came out and I just told her that the first drink after Nephi's assault is a little salty, but after that it's fine. I thought she was going to puke... it was hilarious!
Let's face it, every one makes judgments, I mean we have to to survive and make it in this world. And I know that I am being judged... you can tell by the way people look at you. If it isn't "Oh, what a cute family!" it's "Can't that lady control her kids!?" Or "if that was my kid..." Pshaw, whatever. I learned long ago, that I can't let what I THINK others are thinking about me affect me... OR even what they so "kindly" tell me about their feelings on my parenting and lifestyle are.
I am glad I have a cousin that lives so differently than I do, and I am sure she feels the same way. How wonderful it is to get a peek into someone else's life now and then and gleam a little understanding and a lot more love. Everyone is different, and I believe that's what makes this world so great! I would be bored to tears if every person living was the same. Wouldn't you?
So if you give me a break, I'll give you one!