Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Tunnel Vision

It wasn't long after I married Ben, that I found out that if I wanted my husband's attention at anytime, we had to stay away from TV's. Why? Because Ben gets so distracted by TV that I can't talk to him, he gets completely immersed in whatever show is on, it doesn't matter what. This causes a lot of problems for us at home and even on dates. We actually have a list of places we can't eat at because they have TVs on... it's ridiculous!!

Now, you may be thinking I am exaggerating. I am not. Let me tell you a little story...

When I was about 7 months pregnant with Nephi, Ben came with me to the OB/GYN appointment. Like most waiting rooms, ours was equipped with televisions. This particular day Opera was on, which isn't one of Ben's normal shows, but hey, there was a TV on and there was something to watch on it.

While Ben was glued to the TV, three cops walked in the clinic with a prisoner in chains complete with orange jump suit. Everyone in the waiting room couldn't help but watch the drama unfold. We watched as the prisoner was brought in, checked in at the desk and then escorted to a seat. His butt barely touch the chair when he shot up and tried to escape. He got about 5 feet away (12 inches from Ben!) when the cops jumped and tackled him and drug him out of the office kicking and screaming.

We all sat in silence for a minute looking at each other, still in shock from what we all witnessed. I couldn't wait to tell my friends about it and I turned to Ben who was still watching the TV.

"Can you believe that!? I can't wait to tell Dad! I totally thought he was going to hit you when those cops tackled him!" I told him

Ben turned and looked at me. He blinked.

"Did you say something, sweetie?"

"Yeah, HELLO! Don't even tell me you didn't just see what happened here!" I felt like slugging him! How could anyone have such tunnel vision!!

"What happened here? I don't know what you are talking about," he said.

"You mean to tell me, that you were so absorbed in Opera that you didn't see the whole prisoner thing??"

"What prisoner?" I thought he was kidding... he had to be, right? I told him what happened and he laughed.

"Very funny sweetie! Nice joke!" he didn't believe me! It was at this point that another pregnant woman came to my rescue and told him it was true followed by several other nodding heads. I got a few looks of pity too.

My question: do all men have this "tunnel vision" or is it just mine?


Jill said...

My sister has it. Actually 2 of them do. Major tunnel vision when the TV is on. But I think we all kind of get tunnel vision in one way or another when "we're in the zone." I sometimes do it when I'm on the computer, cooking, or exercising.

DaveandRuth said...

My husband has it big time. When I am talking to him and I do not think he is listening...I ask him what I just said. Usually he has not clue. You are right on about the restaurants, because he does the same thing there too.

Hilarious Homemaker said...

T.V. isn't really an issue with us, but the computer is a big one. Both of us tend to zone each other out at computers two feet away from each other.

The Kooky Queen--Rachel said...

Hahaha, that is hilarious! I can have whole conversations with my hubby before I realized he hasn't heard a word! Gotta love 'em!

Tiffany J said...

Wow! That is pretty impressive tunnel visionness! My husband has it too, but thinks he doesn't. We talk to our parents on the phone every sunday and 1/2 of the conversation is him tuning out his mother, and me pinching him and whispering what she just asked so he can answer. I call it "multi-tasking" to cushion the nagging.:)
Male tunnel vision tendencies are just one of the reasons I also refuse to EVER have a tv in our bedroom. :)

Catherine said...

I laughed so hard when I read this because I know it's true! Since Ben is my cousin, we have watched lots of movies with the family over the years, and I totally remember him being so zoned in that it made me laugh then and now. So many guys are like this with tv, computer, their I-phone, etc. It's truly like men CAN'T multitask, don't you think?

Wade just finished a training and is now big on one-on-one time which I really appreciate as well. So he'll ask ME to put my laptop aside and just sit and talk with him. I am thinking, "This is nice. You should have done this training 6 years ago!"

Our Family said...

That is one of the funniest and craziest things I've read in a long time! What an awesome story! I wish I had seen that in the waiting room.

Otter Thomas said...

Yes we all have it, but most of us are somewhat selective. We like sports and other manly stuff. I couldn't watch Ophrah for 5 seconds. Plus I am nosy and always check out the other people in a waiting room. Sounds like Ben has an extreme case.

Kimberly said...

LOL He is a true life example of being literally glued to the TV. That's amazing!