Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Jane Austin is Dead... Sorta...

Tonight, I just don't feel like being funny... or witty, or even informative or opinionated...

I think I am just going to sick down and have a pity party and feel bad for myself... yeah, that sounds nice.

While I was in the phone with Ben in the other room, the boys did this to one of my treasured books:I just don't understand why they have to be so blasted destructive!!

So much for my complete works of Jane Austin...

... Then again, it's amazing what a little tape and determination can do...
Not good looking, but readable... Besides, you can't judge a book by it's cover, or in this case appearance, right?

9 comments:

Meagan and John said...

my son use to be super destructive cause he wanted attention, once I started giving him positive attention when he was being good and not so much when he was being destructive he now strives to be good cause he wants the positive attention--his teacher has a lot of trouble with him at school and I am sure it is just cause he is trying to get her attention, but she can't give him the attention he craves.

My dog/puppy is the same way, if he wants my attention and I try to ignore him he finds a way to get into trouble so I find if he is asking for my attention I just give him attention and then it saves me time and trouble and money later cause he doesn't have to be destructive to get my attention--granted sometimes I just don't have the time, but I try to fake it.

You take the boys for a lot of walks, have you ever thought about leaving the stroller behind and having them just walk beside you--yeah it slows you down a little bit but it might just be the thing to wear them out so they aren't as destructive, if they don't have the energy they don't destroy as much--it is what I do with the twins when I can

DaveandRuth said...

My girls are much more destructive, then the boys ever were. Hence the being on the 4th TV, in the last 6 months. I am not sure why they do it. I wish you luck.

Our Family said...

I'm sorry, Cat. Nice patch up job, though. I've had to get the tape out for a few books myself. :o)

Lydia said...

such a sad thing to happen to such a good book.

Mama Nut said...

Hmmm... Meagan, I have never been accused of ignoring my kids, that's a new one.

SJB said...

Don't know why kids like that.

Anonymous said...

Ignoring your kids and giving them attention are two separate things. I don't think anyone could possibly accuse you of ignoring your boys! We all know (even those of us who silently stalk your blog) that you love those boys and spend lots of time with them. I think the words that need to be pulled from Meagan's comment are "positive attention". Even though it's really hard to do a lot of the time, because it takes time and you really do have to pay attention, you have to make sure you tell your kids (a LOT!) how well they are doing when they are quietly looking at a book or nicely playing with a toy. We, as mothers spend so much time constantly saying, "Don't do that!" or "What made you think THAT was a good idea?!?!?" that the kids don't hear enough things like "I love the way you are quietly coloring that great picture!" or "I really appreciate how nicely you put the book on the shelf." I know that when I take the time to notice when my kids are doing something nice or playing quietly, and I compliment them on it, they are more prone to do it again. It may take several times of positive praise before they start to get it, but it does work. The problem as parents is that we often don't really NOTICE what our kids are doing until they are being obnoxiously loud or we hear a loud crash!

Mama Nut said...

My kids get tons of positive feedback from me. Every little milestone that Sam or Nephi does is a miracle to me. We laugh, we sing, we dance, and cheer... I just don't write about it a lot -- kind of a Facebook thing:

"Sammy used the potty today!!!!"

or

"Sammy put his shoes on all by himself!!! Woo Hoo!!!"

Most of the time, I am really hard to bother, I just let comments roll off me and laugh about them. I am the first to take great suggestions and hope I am humble enough to admit when I don't know, or if I am doing something wrong. But I have a really hard time when people even suggest I am failing at motherhood in anyway -- my big sensitive spot (we all have them). I work hard to be a great mom to my boys, and it isn't easy. I try my best, and I hardly ever get a break until they go to bed without Ben here. Last night, I felt like such a failure to teach my kids I cried myself silly.

I apologize for feeling uncomfortable and a bit irritated. I just don't like my mothering questioned... what mom does?

Besides, I know exactly why Sam is so destructive. He gets bored. Plain and simple. He gets bored. He may not talk much but that kid is absolutely brilliant with mechanics and math. At 18 months he was downloading games off the internet, at 2 he was doing 2nd grade math on a computer game. He enjoys taking things apart to see how they work and why they do what they do. I know he is just curious but it is SO hard when he is ruining my things and breaking his toys! Erk!

It runs in his genes too. My dad took off my the door of his fridge at age 3, and my husband took apart his mother's new tiller at like age 5 or 6. At 8 my husband wired their house -- light sockets and all! Both my dad and husband were late talkers, just like Sam. And now they are both engineers... or will be in Ben's case.

I don't want to offend anyone, I just want to help you understand, that where Sam is concerned, he just isn't like other kids. And you know what? That's okay, I wouldn't have him any other way!

Amy said...

of all books to pick!?!? Really!?! Bummer...