It's always driven me a bit crazy that the world's definition of a strong woman is a successful career woman. When really, I think a strong woman is one that is tested in many ways and always seems to rise up and overcome the trials of life to become stronger.
My strength has been tested in so many ways in my life, as I am sure all of you can testify to the same in your own. Have we always passed the tests? No. Not always. Do we learn from them? Hopefully. Are we stronger because of them? I know I am.
Having a special needs child is something I never planned on... who does? I think it has been one of the hardest things in my life. Sam has forced me to think outside the box, and look within myself for the strength to do what I need to do. Sam's problems have made me a stronger woman and mother in my own right.
But I don't think I have ever been tested as a woman, mother, or wife as much as having Ben out of the home picture. Sometimes I get so frazzled I want to get in a box and send myself priority to Virginia to be with him. I find myself hiding from the kids, just to get a moment alone. I actually fed them a bag of Reese's Pieces yesterday just so I could do the dishes!
I find myself thinking of all the amazing woman out there that have to do it alone too. Whether they are military wives or single moms, or even women who have husbands that are gone a lot. I think, if they can do it, so can I! I really look up to these kindred spirits, and hope that one day I will be as strong as they.
We all have something to work for, something we really want. I hope that someday, my kids will look to me as an example of strength and that I will be worthy of the title.
I want to thank all my friends out there who have been examples to me. You're strong women! You're heroes.
How do you measure strength?