Wednesday, October 21, 2009

I Can be Such a Hypocrite Sometimes, Sorry

You know what? I was thinking today of the posts that I wrote this week and realized what a grump I have been. Last week I went on about being nice to people, and this week I am all about pushing sidewalk blockers out of the way and ripping apart old ladies at church. What is wrong with me?! No, it isn't PMS... It would be too easy to blame it on the kids. Maybe I am just plain stressed?

Maybe it has something to so with the the hurricanes that have keep me cleaning all week, or the dishes that just keep reproducing in my sink. I know I did the laundry on Monday, but once again the hampers are near full. Or it might have something to do with the head aches I am getting from having to wear my glasses (got to love hay fever!). There I go, whining again. You guys don't need me putting a damper on your day.

Yeah, I think I am just plain old grumpy. Sorry, guys. My anonymous commenter on the last post was right, I was being rude. Does anyone know how I could have handled that better?


One Cluttered Brain said...

I think I am behind a post or two. Link me back to the post and I'll let you know.

But for now just know that we ALL have our days. Sometimes we just have to get the grumpiness OUT of our system. I know I do. I still read ya so don't worry about anything.

(Just so you know hypocrite has an I in it not an A. Sorry pet peeve of mine.)

My laundry is piling up too. I think I need a housekeeper and a cook. :)Once I think I get caught up again it starts up Again. UGH!

Catherine said...

Everyone is entitled to a grumpy couple of days! I am in the process of having a pity party for myself right now. Probably has something to do with the nasty weather. ew.

BUT you will pull out of it!!

Speaking of laundry, I have a load to fold that I completely forgot about. :]

Sara Richins said...

I've come across the same problem while walking on campus with a double stroller, and a kid walking free. Instead of yelling, I just look them in the eye, and very nicely say excuse me please. and when they move thanks. if they don't i give them the mom eye or the don't you see i have three kids (four now) and you are in my way eye. that seems to work.

and everyone can have bad days. i'm having one myself. i find i have then always on wednesdays. stress is a big part of it, but i think a lot of it is we choose to be grumpy. instead of looking at our kids and thinking what a mess they've made, look at it, they had fun and can learn to clean up after themselves. or that soon enough, they will be grown and the days of just hanging out will be gone.

no worries, i struggle with this too. good luck!

Jill said...

We all have those days. The reproducing dishes. The neverending laundry. The toys all over the house. The "What's for dinner? dilemma every night." It all takes it's toll.

I watched this show the other day with a lady talking about how you CAN'T be positive ALL the time. It's okay to be annoyed, stressed, grumpy, overwhelmed, and just plain mad about something. I felt like screaming AMEN! at the TV. Well, I did, but I didn't scream it 'cuz it just didn't feel right seeing how no else was around to hear it, too. But I felt like somebody finally said what I've felt for a long time. You shouldn't be happy all because often it is just shoving the other feelings down and suppressing them. It's healthy to have a whole array of feelings and "let them out." So that you can return to a state of happiness and peace. Just a thought....

FranticMommy said...

Oh Mommy, you are so normal. We all have days when every is overwhelming and neverending. When there's no time for us and it feels we are more "domestic servatude" than a parent. It's ok. step back, ask for help, and take a bit of time for YOU. that's the best advice I can offer. Keep your chin up.

Anonymous said...

First, I think it's funny how so often people hide behind "anonymous" when they say something that might not be polite, or nice.
Secondly, I don't know that you were being rude as much as assertive, they were the ones really being rude. You did say excuse me after all.

Tay said...

My bad days are Tuesdays. I'm advocating it to be ok to be mean on your bad weekday. :) And most college kids are ignorant. I'll bet if you're overly polite next time, they'll remember that they want to move for you. And take note of other strollers.

Cynthia said...

The first time I had a really bad mood after Greg and I got married, I remember apologizing profusely to him. I'm a pretty chipper person- though still snarky- so it wasn't my norm. I'll never forget what he said to me: "Honey, you don't have to be in a good mood ALL the time". It was a serious epithany for me! LOL!

And so I pass on the same advice to you- "You don't have to be in a good mood all the time." With your Hubs gone, you've lost your usual venting buddy so it's natural that your frustrations will spill out here from time to time. Just be who you are even if it means being grumpy or snarky sometimes.

People don't like people who seem too perfect anyway. We all know the seemingly perfet are full of BS and hiding reality for the sake of appearances. Don't be that person. I'll still like you- good day or bad.

Pam said...

I honestly don't think you were being rude, but next time just smile sweetly and say "Excuse me", loud enough for them to hear you but with a friendly tone. Inside you can curse their clueless zombielike behavior.