Sometimes I forget that not all people know how friendly I am. I can be pretty innocent and naive in the way I think and do things sometimes and fate has a way of coming back and biting me on the butt about it. Like today.
Most of you know, I am a church goer. I am really active in my religion and try hard to uphold the values of Christianity in my everyday life and the way I treat others. One thing I try to do is to give everyone the benefit of the doubt and not be quick to judge. However, by doing this, in my mind everyone else is the same way. Not so... and I have to keep telling myself that... if even to keep my own name out of the gossip that finds its way around wrecking havoc.
Today, I got up early, took a shower, got all dressed up in Sunday best and STILL had time to dress the kids and pack a busy bag for them for church. We even got to church 15 minutes early and got a side pew all to ourselves. Awesome!
The boys were being good, I felt no stress, and we were content listening to the organ play before the services started.
Now, before I continue on telling you MY side of the story. I want to take you to the pew in the back and tell you the side of the little old lady that sees everything... and what SHE saw.
Little Old Church Lady:
I was sitting on my regular pew in the back, minding my own business and listening to the sweet church music, when I noticed that Cat lady, sitting a few rows ahead of me with her boys, motion to a young man to sit with them. What?! He was NOT her husband! I squinted my eyes to see better. I didn't recognize him. I can't believe the nerve! I know for a fact that her husband is gone in the Army and here she is sitting with another man in church! And there are kids involved.... good grief!
I watched them closely, ready to report to the bishop anything fishy. The boys seemed to know the man, they liked him. Even more shifty! I wish I had her husband's number... he should know what his wife is up to behind his back. And at church, none the less!!
Back to Me:
Okay, I admit, maybe it did look a little weird. But you have to hear my side! The guy I called over to sit with me is a good friend of Ben and mine. He AND his wife. They have been lifesavers since Ben left helping me out with the boys. One or both of them come to my house every Thurs. after I put the boys to bed, so I can go to the gym. J.'s wife has been pretty sick lately so he came to church alone. When I saw him, I thought, he should sit with us so he wouldn't be sitting by himself, and besides he could help with the boys. That was it, nothing special, no ulterior motives. Just one friend invited another to sit at church.
I didn't think anything of it until people started to ask me afterwords about my mysterious friend. It didn't surprise me when they didn't recognize him, he had only been attending our ward for a few months, but really people... most of them knew me. Shouldn't that be enough?
Old Lady on the back pew, you should be ashamed of yourself! It's people like you that can ruin others with your gossip. Please just keep your naughty shameful thoughts to yourself.
PS -- I should just mention that I find this whole situation completely hilarious! Ben laughed himself silly when I told him, only because he knows how devoted I am to him and how completely ludicrous it all is. When Ben couldn't stop laughing about it, I got a little annoyed and said, "It isn't that funny!" "Yeah, it is!" He said. He didn't feel bad for me at all... but then again I don't either...