I have been debating whether or not to touch this subject, because I don't want to hurt any feelings. But it has really been nagging at me all week. I don't know how to just come out and say it, so let me illustrate with a little story.
A few years ago, my husband and I ran into an old high school friend. We were really excited to see him because it had been like 8 years and kids later and thought it would be great to reconnect. So we exchanged phone numbers and promised to hook up and chat.
The next day he calls and wants to stop by and see our place and hang out. I thought it sounded a little fishy, and I wondered why he didn't want to bring his family, but I agreed, he was an old friend.
When he got to our apartment, he was dressed in a suit and tie and had a briefcase. When I saw him I knew right off, he was using our friendship to try to sell us something. It had happened before to us, and it breaks my heart every time it does. Sure enough, he was selling insurance and wanted us to by or join his company. Ben pretty much drop kicked him out the door... we don't like feeling used.
This happens all the time. Even more so with the economy the way it is, and everyone trying to make an extra buck. People like to play on our weaknesses and exploit our problems to make money. I get ofers about weight loss pills, magic medicine that will make Sammy normal (this one really angers me -- I don't like them to bring my child into it), insurances, and makeup and facial care.
Don't get me wrong, I like to do product reviews, that is totally different, and I don't mind people suggesting products to me... I don't like feeling used. I don't like feeling cornered and pressured into buying things... especially to keep a friendship! I won't. I think that is why I like the Avon lady. She gives you a book and leaves, no pressure. Know what I mean?
Needless to say, our old high school friend never called again. He didn't want our friendship, he wanted our money. Shame on him. And shame on others who do the same thing. People want to be treated like they matter, like they are worth being friends without money involved.
Anyway, I would love to hear your thoughts on this!